Communicating with your loved one who is living with memory problems can be challenging. But with the right strategies, you can bridge the gap and foster a more engaging relationship. Whether you have been struggling to communicate with your loved one with memory problems for a long time or the communications struggles have started recently, we’ve outlined strategies that can help you cope and be more successful.
What You Should Avoid
- Don’t ask questions. Your loved one with memory problems can construe even the basics of conversation starters as an actual question.
- Never counter aggressive behavior. At times, someone living with dementia might become aggressive in response to their environment. When angered, they are in a way saying: “Pay attention to me. I don’t want that!”
- Don’t say “can’t,” “no,” or “don’t.” These words can create resistance. So, stay positive with them and never tell them they can’t do a task.
- Don’t talk down to them. Do not talk to them like they are children, or sound condescending.
- Don’t say, “do you recall?”
This expression will trigger your loved one’s fear of failing. Instead,
rephrase the expression like: “You know, I was thinking you said you liked it.”
What You Should Do
- Use the senses. Use your senses as conversation starters. Know what they like to see, smell, taste, hear, or feel, and use them.
- Use non-verbal communication. Body language speaks volumes when words fail. So, keep an eye on your loved one’s body language. They can reveal a feeling of discomfort, anger, distress, or sadness. When you notice any, redirect the discussion to something more appealing.
- Be careful with your tone. Words said with a loving tone will be better understood by your loved one than those with a harsh tone.
- Speak in short sentences.
Utilize simple sentences. If you need to use questions, keep it brief and
ensure they are “yes” or “no” questions.
Communicating with a loved one
with memory problems has its challenges. But these techniques can help your
loved ones with memory problems will maintain their confidence and self-worth.
